“Ladies ‘Pose To Be Silent, Polite and Gentle”

Speaking to a group of third to fifth graders, Jameis Winston of the NFL’s Tamp Bay Buccaneers said [in part] that “the ladies ‘pose to be “silent, polite and gentle…but my men suppose to be strong.”

In this era of radical political correctness and ultra-feminism, it is easy to see how Winston’s words (as expressed in my post’s title) could be taken out of context and construed as perpetuating certain gender stereotypes that have had negative social, economic and cultural effects on women.

As we delve into the body of the post, here are three questions I would like you to consider. (1) Was Winston telling women how to act—for all time? (2) Was he leading a movement to silence women?  (3) Did Winston, in his attempt to deliver a well-intentioned and uplifting speech, reference a gender stereotype?

I have been incredibly blessed to have had a loving mother and father raise me. My father modeled, among many things, hard work, grit, courage, innovativeness, compassion and loyalty. My mother was the epitome of beauty, determination, resolve, strength, intelligence and kindness.

I have also had the good fortune of being surrounded by four beautiful women for a combined seventy-seven years (and counting). Interestingly, my wife is soft-spoken, polite and gentle. She is also strong, intelligent and classy. My daughters possess high mental acuity—they are beautiful; they are critical thinkers and problem-solvers; they are ambitious; and they love fun and adventure.

I understand that we live in a sport’s obsessed and entertainment drunken society. But why the hell do we look to athletes and entertainers to be role models? Since when did their voice become the voice of the people? Well, this shift started when some parents decided to stop parenting their children and allow other people to raise their children. And that, ladies and gentlemen, is the problem.

This is not to say that athletes, entertainers and other public figures should be absolved from scrutiny relating to questionable levels of conduct. But it is one thing to chronicle misbehavior and achievement, and it is another thing to tether one’s entire reality and worldview to athletes and entertainers’ realities.

Love him or hate him, the reality remains that Jameis Winston is not the face of gender stereotyping. Conversely, his statements are a reflection of political, religious and culturally pervasive views, values and norms that have been perpetuated by men in positions of power since the dawn of human history.

 

Upcoming post: “You Have A Great Idea – Now What?”

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14 thoughts on ““Ladies ‘Pose To Be Silent, Polite and Gentle”

  1. Interesting post! I can see where the statement “the ladies ‘pose to be “silent, polite and gentle…but my men suppose to be strong.” Can be misinterpreted as some may see this statement and believe that these are the only qualities woman should possess. When I see this statement, I actually do not see anything wrong with this. Men and woman are the same in many ways but are also different in many ways as well. Both genders can possess each of these qualities, men can be strong but also be gentle while woman can as well be gentle but also strong. I believe it depends on the circumstance of a situation where we would see these qualities displayed. Strong does not always have to refer to physical strength but can also refer to someone’s ability to be mentally strong, likewise with these other words used above. Words can be used in many different ways and does not only have to be defined in one particular way. Thank you for sharing some of your personal references as well!

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    • I appreciate your input! And I liked how you captured the sentiment of the post:

      (1) “Men and woman are the same in many ways but are also different in many ways as well.” (2) “Words can be used in many different ways and does not only have to be defined in one particular way.”

      Thank you!

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  2. I totally agree with you about not looking to athletes to be our role models and I honestly think schools should screen celebrities that come and speak to their children. You want to make sure the message is consistent and the message fit all children. Not just boys or girls. Save that for your local mentoring group or Boys Club. I think the message to children is to not let anything stop you from believing in yourself. Whether you are a boy or girl, immigrant, part of the LGBQT community or a different color. You matter and so do your dreams. What is a strong man? What is a weak man? It’s too general and not specific.

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  3. Well, because of his alleged sexual assault case. If he had never had this incident in his life, this wouldn’t be news at all. Or if a lady athlete like Brittney Griner said it, it would of been “no harm no foul” Society and social media chooses what it wants to be outraged about. There is no equality in right or wrong anymore, it’s just a big popularity contest now.

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  4. I never understood why we place certain groups in the spot light to be role models.. they are here to do a job.. and thats it.. but I was raised in a household where women are to be silent.. that didn’t work well with me..lol.. but through maturing I can see the benefit… BTW great article.

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