Ladies, here are two things men find unattractive about women.
#1. A woman who has to be constantly reminded of her intrinsic worth and physical beauty.
Women, if you need a man to validate you, then you need a checkup from the neck up. I understand that we live in a society that glamorizes certain aspects of what constitutes beauty, while ignoring what truly matter such as character, positive attitude, depth, resolve and authenticity.
The mainstream media along with Hollywood and the entertainment industry have popularized the notion that a beautiful and complete woman is a socialite, pale-skinned, waffle-thin, clueless, liberated, inarticulate, loves to shop, obsessed with penis size, wears sleazy clothing, fixated with cosmetic surgery, vain, dippy and common.
Ladies, you are so much more than society’s definition of you. A truly beautiful woman is more than just eye candy. In men’s eyes, a truly beautiful woman is a complete woman who unapologetically dons her completeness. She is intelligent, elegantly sophisticated, self-secure, has positive self-concept, high self-efficacy, graceful, unpretentiousness, charismatic and classy.
Men prefer substance over flash.
#2. Ladies, please, please, please stop acting desperate, and stop giving up your heart and body so easily. I know he got the juice. I realize he’s finer than red wine. I understand that he’s chiseled and physically endowed like a Greek god. And I know you desire him. But respect yourself enough to let the right person into your life.
Your eagerness to find a man should not be reduced to sleeping with every player who whispers sweet nothings in your ears. Desperation is unattractive. And the last thing a man wants on his hands is a thirsty woman.
For the record, just because men find certain things unattractive about you does not mean they will not attempt to sleep with you. If you’re that easy, then it’s not his fault.
Conversely, if a man perceives you as someone who values every aspect of her being— someone who is composed in the midst of sexual desire; someone who is unruffled by others’ opinions; someone who holds her head high during adversities; and someone who builds and creates her own; then he—a real man, a good man—sees you as a winner and someone with whom he would love to celebrate life.
Upcoming post: “Man Up”